I don’t know if you’ve noticed, but I tend not to focus on the gay part of my life. I like girls. Do I have to shout about it? I do as much as I am excessively proud of my family. But you might not call me a flag-waver. I’m more lesbo-lite. I’m a paying member of HRC. I’ve written to my government representatives about gay initiatives and issues. I’ve marched for rights in Washington. And now, as a stay-at-home mother of two small children, my focus is providing a solid, loving foundation for my boys and trying to get some sleep when I can.
Having said that, when called upon to act and oppose something fundamentally wrong, I will and I do-especially if doing so takes the shape of the written word. I’m all over it. Today all bloggers (gay, straight or otherwise) have been asked to blog in opposition to Proposition 8 in California-the ban against gay marriage. It’s WRITE TO MARRY DAY!
Our wedding was the happiest day of my life. I know people say that all the time about their own weddings, and now I know why. There’s a natural high that comes from spending time with a whole bunch of people who love you and want to celebrate your relationship. I hope everyone experiences that love-high at some point in their lives.
There were family members who didn’t attend. They were conflicted at best about it. You know what? They’re still married. Our wedding didn’t change a thing about their lives. If you don’t like it, don’t marry a gay. You have to ask why it is that some people are so opposed to gay marriage. Because it undermines the sanctity of heterosexual marriage? Can anyone give me an example of how gay marriage has undermined the sanctity of marriage? I realize civil union is only available in a handful of states, so you might have to look outside of your own to find an example. While you’re at it, you can look at the entire populations of Canada, Spain, Denmark and Holland where it is legal.
The highest rates of divorce in the world? The United States of America. As far as I can tell, the only way is up for the sanctity of marriage in the U.S., so to all those who feel irrationally threatened by gay marriage, get off your high horses because you’re bound to fall off soon. I wouldn’t look down if I were you.
But for all of you voting in California, look down–all the way down. Apparently, the proposition is way down on the ballot, so you need to “go down” on proposition 8 and VOTE NO. One day, gay marriage will be legal. I don’t care if you’re for it, conflicted about it, ambivalent about it or against it. It’s going to happen. Think of it as the slavery or interracial marriage issue of the day. And some day, the films and books and documentaries will out those who fought it. Which roles will you play in the making of this history? Please get the word out to everyone you know in California to VOTE NO on PROPOSITION 8.